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by admin on February 3, 2016 Comments Off on The Emotions & Infertility

A diagnosis of unexplained Infertility can be an emotional rollercoaster. Fear, Uncertainty, anger, grief and helplessness can be some of the emotions women might feel. From a Chinese Medicine perspective, these emotions can absolutely influence the flow of qi, general energy levels, menstrual cycles and hinder the fertility journey further.

In Chinese Medicine, the organs said to be affected most by stress is the Liver, Kidneys and Heart. The Heart is said to “house the Shen” or Spirit. 9ac9f847e6ab620f09e408a4302c4fb9

Here’s some definitions of Heart-Shen to help give you a better understanding – as this is a Chinese language term, its often not simply defined in one sentence!

Shen Means…And Therefore influences…
Spirityour Vitality
Mindyour Thoughts & Memories, mental faculties
Mental Health & Vitalityyour Clarity of mind
Presenceyour Alertness
Consciousnessyour Sleep/Wake cycles
Human experienceOur lives
Emotional intelligenceOur relationships around us


In fertility Acupuncture, the Heart-Shen is very important:

  • It controls and distributes blood
  • Induces downward flow of menses
  • It relates to sleep quality
  • Can loosely be associated with the Hypothalamus/ Pituitary axis and is affected by Stress

Stress & The Hypothalamus.

The Hypothalamus receives signals from the central nervous system, amygdala (emotional response), Testes and Ovaries. It’s like the control centre for hormones – the ovaries and Testes take their instructions from the Hypothalamus in the Brain. So if Stress impacts the Nervous system and Brain, It impacts the hormones and can affect fertility rates- its a vicious cycle. Therapies like Acupuncture can help break the cycle of stress by managing it and nourishing the Heart-Shen energy.

And when Stress is enough that The Heart-Shen is not Happy:

  • Emotional strain shuts people down (emotional walls, grief in private, lack of joy)
  • Irregular ovulation & menstruation
  • Which is a big problem when you’re trying to fall pregnant.

A healthy Heart = A healthy mind

Aspect of YouWhen its HealthyWhen its Unhealthy
EyesClear eyesEmpty eyes, glazed, vacant expression
Spirit“Healthy, harmonious spiritedness”“Spiritlessness”
ThoughtsClear thoughtsExcessive or muddled
Shen ClarityBreadth & depth of mindMental cloudiness, poor concentration & focus, forgetfulness, foggy head,
Shen AwarenessSelf awareness & aware of things outside of themselvesUnaware, denial, oblivious
Shen BalanceEmotional response and recoveryLittle or no emotional response or overreaction with no recovery
Shen Power /StrengthPhysical & mental strength and adequate rest at nightMentally drained, Depression – sluggish or weak shen, Manic – overactive, requires less sleep and over animated
SleepSound sleep quality and quantityDisrupted Sleep, Dream disturbed Sleep, Nightmares


Here’s 7 things you can do to Nourish your Heart Qi:

  • Get out in nature – hiking, swimming, walking, cycling
  • Ground yourself – meditation, tai chi, yoga (Dru Yoga is specific for Heart energy, but all Yoga styles are beneficial)
  • Connect with real people – spend one on one time with people that make you feel GOOD or energised. Social Media does not count!
  • Laugh – watch funny movies with friends, go do something fun that makes you giggle or belly laugh
  • Nurture yourself – good food, pampering (but this doesn’t have to be outward focused or about your appearance) Natural Therapy treatments such as Acupuncture, Massage or Kinesiology work a treat here!
  • Creativity – do something creative, that excites you or energises you.
  • Anything else that makes you feel GOOD – cuddle puppies, cuddle babies (if that works for you), random acts of kindness.

It’s healthy to express and unhealthy to repress. Who is part of your support network? If you’re not sure where to turn to air out your thoughts and feelings anonymously and you’re feeling really down, consider Beyond Blue or Lifeline. If you think you’re ok but still a bit in the dark about who to talk to, try this FREE Cheat Sheet on Figuring out Your Support Network. Download it now!

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